Please can you let me know if the following constitutes a divorce, This was sent on July 24th 2021 to his Wife (my niece) and myself ( I am the girls Paternal Uncle) via a WhatsApp message from husband, “Salaam Motaba (refers to myself), I’ve decided that I will not be going ahead with the ruksati or walima at all. After having space and time to think I’ve decided to end things. I have told the family who have accepted my decision and hope you will also accept it. All of (name of girl) belongings are packed at my mums and will need to be collected soon.”
The Nikah was done in October 2020, they had not yet done the ruksati. They had met many times alone and in privacy. When I asked the boy what he meant by the above message, he was saying that he never meant Divorce. From our side, after receiving the message we thought it was all over and there was no communication between the families, however on August 8th 2021 he messaged the girl saying he does not want to divorce and wants the marriage to work out, but the only issue is his mum is not willing to accept his decision and will cut ties with him and his siblings. I asked him again this week what he intended when he sent the original message, his reply was: “ I hesitated before sending the message and didn’t want to send the message to say I wanted to end things my heart wasn’t in it when I typed it or sent it ”
Please can you advise if this is classed as a divorce, if so what type and if they would like to keep the marriage what would be the procedure for them to get back in their marriage?
In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
In principle, a word/phrase that has multiple meanings with the possibility of Talaq is called Kinayah (allusive). If such a word/phrase is uttered with the intention of Talaq or there is mention of talaq immediately prior to uttering these words, then it will constitute a Talaq al-Ba’in (one irrevocable divorce). 
In the scenario in question, the words “I’ve decided to end things” hold a possibility of Talaq. Thus, if these words were sent by the husband with the intention of Talaq or there was mention of talaq immediately prior, then one Talaq al-Baa’in (one irrevocable divorce) will occur. Thereafter, if the couple wish to reconcile, they may do so only after performing a new Nikah. Thereupon, the husband will only hold the right of two Talaqs.
On the other hand, if the husband never held the intention of Talaq when sending these words and there was no mention of Talaq prior to this, the Talaq will not occur.
And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best.
Mufti Mubasshir Ahmed
13 Rabi’ al-Awwal 1443 / 20 October 2021
Concurred by: Abdullah Desai | Annas Shah
Approved by: Mufti Tahir Wadee| Mufti Yusuf Ilolvi
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ولا خلاف أنه لا يقع الطلاق بشيء من ألفاظ الكناية إلا بالنية فإن كان قد نوى الطلاق يقع فيما بينه وبين الله تعالى، وإن كان لم ينو لا يقع فيما بينه وبين الله تعالى، وإن ذكر شيئا من ذلك ثم قال: ما أردت به الطلاق يدين فيما بينه وبين الله تعالى؛ لأن الله تعالى يعلم سره ونجواه
[al-Bada’I al-Sana’I, 3/106, DKI]
(ولا يقع بها) أي ولهذا لا يقع الطلاق بالكنايات قضاء (إلا بنية) أي بنية الزوج، أو الطلاق مضافا إلى الفاعل، أو المفعول (أو دلالة حال)؛ لأنها غير موضوعة للطلاق بل موضوعة لما هو أعم منه والمراد بدلالة الحال الحالة الظاهرة المفيدة لمقصوده وفيه إشارة إلى أن الكنايات غير مؤثرة بدون النية ودلالة الحال
[Majma’ al-Anhur, 1/402, Dar Ihya al-Turāth]
وإذا لم يكن صريحا كان كناية لعدم الواسطة والكناية تحتاج إلى النية
[al-Inayah Sharh al-Hidayah, 4/8, Dar al-Fikr]
الكناية: ما استتر المراد بحكمها أنه لا يجب العمل بها إلا بالنية أو ما يقوم مقامها من دلالة الحال لأنها غير موضوعة لما استعملت فيه بل تحتمله وغيره فلا بد من التعيين أو دلالته
[al-Inayah Sharh al-Hidayah, 4/61 – Dar al-Fikr]
قال لها اختاري أو أمرك بيدك ينوي) تفويض (الطلاق) لأنها كناية فلا يعملان بلا نية)
[al-Durrul Mukhtār, 3/315, HM Saeed]
باب الكنايات (كنايته) عند الفقهاء (ما لم يوضع له) أي الطلاق (واحتمله) وغيره (ف) الكنايات (لا تطلق بها) قضاء (إلا بنية أو دلالة الحال) وهي حالة مذاكرة الطلاق أو
[Raddul Muhtār, 3/296, HM Saeed]
عنوان السوال: “میری طرف سے بلکل ختم ہے” سے طلاق
الجواب: زيد سے دریافت کر لیا جاۓ، اگر وہ کہے کہ میں نے رشتہ نکاح کو ختم نہیں کیا تو اس کا قول معتبر ہوگا۔
[Fatawa Mahmudiyyah, 12-570, Jamia’ Faruqiyyah]